When Should You Pivot and When Should You Persevere?By Homaira Kabir
We live in a strange world where the pace of change places paradoxical demands on us.
On the one hand, we need to be adaptable, to let go of our preconceptions and to be quick to embrace new ideas and seize new opportunities. On the other, we need to battle against a culture of instant gratification and learn to tough it out when we feel passionate about a path or an idea before abandoning it to pivot to the next new one.
In my experience working with hundreds of women who are either burning themselves out in their pursuits or hopping from idea to idea looking for one that feels exciting and purposeful, I've found the following to be helpful guides on when to persevere and when to call it quits.
When to Pivot
You're damaging your health and/or your relationships
Some of us become hooked on our pursuits because we're trying to prove ourselves through them. But when success drives us, it can crowd out other important areas of our lives. For instance, outings with friends may seem less fun when you’re preoccupied with your work. Or you end up missing one too many family meals when you’re trying to perfect your tasks. If that's you, you need to reassess your life. Who are the people you want to spend time with, what are the passions you want to pursue, and what memories do you want to build? Life is a compromise. Where will you make yours?
You're not finding joy in the pursuit
Many of us arrive at mid-adulthood having spent years pursuing someone else's dreams, leaving us disconnected from who we are and what we really want and disenchanted with the joyless ride our own lives have become. If that's you, spend some time thinking about the life you want to live and the legacy you want to leave behind. You may not find the answers overnight, but when you do, change your path. For there's nothing sadder than climbing the ladder of life only to realize too late that it was leaning against someone else's wall.
You're too afraid to let go
It’s not uncommon for us to choose to stay put even though we feel unhappy in our work or relationships, because we feel we have nowhere to go. It might be because we've been doing the same job all our lives and have become a one-trick pony. Or, we've been so focused on one relationship that the thought of leaving that comfort zone f